Leaving Daddy Home…

Mommy’s Time Away

When Mommy leaves home for the first time, it can be more traumatic for Dad then it is for baby.  It’s hard for Dads to pick up where Mom left off.  Of course Dad is competent and caring, but he may not know where the formula is, which drawer the extra baby wipes are hidden in, or the difference between a 12 month sleeper and a 0-3 month sleeper. Dad is used to knowing how things go in his world, so it may be a frustrating experience for him to be lost in the forest of new baby accessories. By the time he figures it out, he and baby could be close to tears.

Quick Tips

Here are some tips that might help make Dad and baby more comfortable:
1) Take time to show him - Leaving out a sleeper is a nice token, but its only a temporary fix.  Dad needs to be taught where things are just in case one sleeper isn’t enough.

2) Give a quick review- Remind Dad how to make formula or rice cereal.  He may already know, but an speedy rundown can’t hurt.

3) Keep him in the Loop- Be sure that Daddy knows how the baby has been feeling and acting.  Make sure Dad knows if the babies routine has changed and how. If he knows what to expect, things will go more smoothly.

4) Give a time line- It’s easier for Dad to cope when he knows where you are and how long you’ll be away.  If you have a cell phone, take it along so he can call if he has questions.

5) Express love and confidence- Daddy needs to know that you appreciate him and believe he can do a good job.  He will be an old pro in no time.

6) Be understanding- When you get home, make sure that you compliment all that he did well.  He probably didn’t do everything perfectly, but isn’t it wonderful that he is willing to learn?! Remember to say “Thank You.�

7) Give lots of opportunities- The more Daddy can help out with baby, the better he will be at it.  It’s important for Daddy and baby to have time together and time alone.  Daddy’s relationship with baby can help them both feel more secure whether Mom is home or not.

Good for Everyone

As mothers, the responsibility of full time care for our children is a tall order, one we are glad to fill. However, even we need a break, and often we need only ask our husbands for it, openly and clearly. You may just be surprised at how eager your husband is to help. He’ll likely be willing to help out if he understands what it is that you need, and why.

Don’t hesitate to explain that you need to run an errand, or even just get some time alone. Everybody will benefit from this. You can get the away time that you need, and he’ll get some experience and time to bond with his child. After all, he’s a parent too, and as such, will get just as much satisfaction from spending time with the kids as you do.

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